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Breaking out of your Comfort Zone

Time and again its important for everyone to understand that and individual everyone must have to step out of the comfort zone. Knowingly or unknowingly people tend to slip into the comfort zone and get caught in that web unable to break out of it.

Dream Big : The first way to break out of the comfort zone is to dream big. Let your dreams be so big that you have that courage and motivation to work on it every day. Like Dr. Kalam says Dream is not what you see when you sleep…It’s the thing which does not let you sleep”.

Do with Passion: The reason why many people slip into the comfort zone is lack of passion. When there is passion there is then there is a never ending thirst to always be the best at it. So do things with lot of passion. Either you do what you are passionate about or be passionate about what you do.

Self Belief: A strong sense of self belief will help you to believe that you can manage things quite well even when you step out of the comfort zone. Belief that you can do it, the belief that things will be great and that all is for a purpose are useful beliefs to carry and move on.

Learn to take failures: Never fear failure because it may even happen to you when you are in the comfort zone. So be ready to take failures are feedback, as learning lessons and continue your journey breaking the comfort zone.

Make Mistakes: Its quite fine to make mistakes. End of it you do not do it willingly and just unwillingly and hence they would just be a slip and not a big mistake which you can learn to bounce back.

Stay there: Make sure that you can stay there longer and ensure that your goal is reached as you step out of comfort zone. At no point in time its worth to get back to your comfort zone. So Persist.

Step out of your Comfort Zone !

Find your way during the Tough Times

There are times in life when we have tough times. May not be every day but then you are cornered to a situation where the only thing that you feel is its end of the road and nothing much can be done. It may be with respect to your job, your relationship and so on. You feel that its end of the road but then you because these situation mostly occur to things that are very important you hang on and want solutions.

It is during these tough times that you need that strong will and strong power within to sustain them and move on. So how you handle these tough situations.

1. Hold on – Remember that is most important aspect. Hold on for some more time because you never know whats the solution and for all you know you might just spark off with a solution immediately. So why give up when the gold mine may just be one step away.

2. Be Grateful – It may not be something that easy to do during the tough times but it is important. Rather than saying “Why Me”, ask yourself what all gifts do you have in your life and how can you make use of them?

3. Find the ultimate purpose – When you really know the true purpose of what you are doing, you will really find the way to handle the tough times. Those are the moments when you will have the strongest will to ensure that you hang on and do whatever it takes to come out successful of the situation in place. Finding the purpose will give the true and real meaning of the situation in hand

4. Things will change – Realize that things will change. The same cannot sustain for the rest of your life. There is a time when you will be out of the adversity and have a much more peaceful and joyful life and its important to understand that things will change.

5. Have Faith and Belief – Have total faith and belief that you are capable of handling things and that you will find the a solution. If you playing a role (in whatever capacity either at home or at work) things have been given to you because you can handle it. So have the self belief that you will be able to overcome the difficult times and things will change.

I would not call Tough times as tough, I would call it as Testing times and when someone is testing me I would like to prove that I am capable to handling it. So allow yourself to go through the testing times and come out as a Champ.

Dr. Aruna on Life!

dr-aruna.jpgLast Saturday (23rd May) lot of people had a great time with Dr. Aruna an Oncologist and a great role model for Life. The way she carried herself and the way she conducted herself was just mind blowing. I am and every one who attended the session is blessed to have met such a great person who survived a Cancer and living with so much courage and discipline in life.

She was so energetic and she was just emanating joy of life. She surprised everyone when she started saying “I am doctor but I am going talk about life”. What did I learn from her? I think different people had different learning but these are my learning. I am sure I cannot express everything because there was also lot of connection and feelings that was communicated.

1. All of us have been successful in life. We won the race when we were born and thats a great deal in life.

My Learning: Wow what a message to start with this was. Hitting me hard to remind me that Praveen its time you do more in life.

2. World came into existence by Imagination. For example, electricity can be used for many purposes, for light, ECG for checking if the heart if working, an oven to bake and an electric chair to kill people

My Learning: Whatever is happening in the world is by imagination and if we can stretch it wide we can do wonders.  And I am doing this every day

3.  Be aware of all things in life and thinking can Change your Life. Thinking changes everything or even the events that happen around. 

My Learning: I just found of what thought patterns I have about certain things that are not happenign in my life and I changed them. Event is not the outcome but Event plus response is the outcome and I can control the thoughts and choose the response

4. Jonathan the seagull: This is from a book where the seagull was fat and people thought it cannot fly and it started flying and was on top of the world. It is like the bumble bee. Aero dynamically speaking the bumble bee cannot fly but it does not know it cannot fly

My Learning: Be the seagull. Break barriers that you thought you cannot. So I am taking up new challenges in my life

5. There is not any hopeless things or situations that you cannot come out of if you think differently.

My Learning: Wow! thats all can I say

6. Sorrows are not sorrows in itself but its only so called sorrows which you can come out of. Do not succumb to Sorrows

7. People see me as a successful person but am I successful. If I achieve what I want then i am successful

My Learning: Never live for others. Just achieve what you want.

8. Your living is by your thoughts. Difficulties will come, but have the mental strength and dont give up at any cost

My Learning: During difficult times I will focus on the goals and move one

9. Why waste this precious life? Never compare yourself with others

My Learning: I never do that and dont want to do it in future too. I will have role models and do better than many.

10. At no point of time I thought I will not do my M.S. Thinking is the greatest attraction

My Learning: Dr. Aruna had some challenges to do her Masters in Medicine and this belief and focus made her achieve. Can’t I do that?

For all those who could not attend, I feel sorry for you and this is the best I could do.

My Entry in Litemind

I just thought I’ll share with you all what I posted for a contest entry in Litemind.com, for a Personal Excellence Project (Great concept and thanks to author Luciano). here it goes… 

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Internal Conflict questions Passion

 

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We have passion to do something and there are other forces that pull us away from Passion. Though we are passionate about doing it we are not sure the true purpose of things we do. For example I know many people who have wanted to write the best of personal development blogs (including myself). They have 2 reasons to blog for, one is to give help others achieve more and secondly to make money. Though the passion is to help others, because of wrong strategies people fail to make money. They are caught in a fix and thats when the internal conflict arises. Either to it for money or for the true purpose. When this confusion starts, though you begin to work hard, you don’t get what you want. Primarily because you are not attracting. You start feeling that are people thinking that I am doing this to make money. Then you start defending your actions, and this conflict also arises a lot of negative energy and you feel drained every time you think about it.

 

There are 2 things to this

1. Making money is not evil. You can do lot of things with money. Even Mother Theresa the most noblest person ever lived wanted money 2. There is not harm in doing things for money.

The thing is that you must be sure of the reason behind you doing something. Be it Purpose of changing people or the purpose of making money be 100% sure of that. This will make sure that your conflict does not arise.

Other major conflicts people face are

Careers Vs Family

Money Vs Purpose

Health Vs Pleasure (Every time you eat that extra piece of Chocolate cake you feel guilty and that guilt makes things worse inside of your body)

Do feel free to list down more. 

My great hero!

Abdul KalamThis day happens to be the Birthday of my greatest inspiration of all times. Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam. I have learnt plenty of lessons from this greatest personality and thats what is here today.

1. Dream - All you need in life to achieve is a big dream. At a very young age Dr. Kalam used to dream of flying and later he realized his dream to a great extent. Today he in fact asks all the youngsters to dream big so that they as well as the country could flourish

2. Resourefulness – Its never resources but resourcefulness that makes history. From a very small village in South India, being an icon around the globe is about Action and strong positive Belief that anything is possible

3. The True Personality - He never was too keen on wearing the best of clothes nor dressing up himself. True personality is the inner beauty and the inner strength. Probably the most charismatic person with the charming and inviting smile ever. Be yourself and you can attract everyone.One of my favorite quotes of Dr. Kalam goes like this

“Learning gives creativity. Creativity leads to thinking. Thinking provides knowledge. Knowledge makes you great.”

His entire life, he dedicated for the society. Such as selfless person with so much of love and care has the entire nation to shower their love. One thing that I always want to follow from Dr. Abdul Kalam is the 6 traits of a great leader

1. The Leader must have a Vision

2. The Leader must be able to travel into an unexplored path

3. The Leader must know how to manage success, and even more importantly, failure.

4. The Leader should have the courage to make decisions

5. The Leader should have nobility in management

6. The Leader should work with integrity and succeed with integrity

I can go on and on about this great leader. I experince him in me when I want and feel great about it and trust me that gives a great sense of achievement and satisfaction and allows to perform deeds similar to the this great icon, Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam. Long live this great person.  Happy Birthday My Hero!