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Dr. Aruna on Life!

May 26, 2009 Experience, Inspiring, Learnings, Life One comment

dr-aruna.jpgLast Saturday (23rd May) lot of people had a great time with Dr. Aruna an Oncologist and a great role model for Life. The way she carried herself and the way she conducted herself was just mind blowing. I am and every one who attended the session is blessed to have met such a great person who survived a Cancer and living with so much courage and discipline in life.

She was so energetic and she was just emanating joy of life. She surprised everyone when she started saying “I am doctor but I am going talk about life”. What did I learn from her? I think different people had different learning but these are my learning. I am sure I cannot express everything because there was also lot of connection and feelings that was communicated.

1. All of us have been successful in life. We won the race when we were born and thats a great deal in life.

My Learning: Wow what a message to start with this was. Hitting me hard to remind me that Praveen its time you do more in life.

2. World came into existence by Imagination. For example, electricity can be used for many purposes, for light, ECG for checking if the heart if working, an oven to bake and an electric chair to kill people

My Learning: Whatever is happening in the world is by imagination and if we can stretch it wide we can do wonders.  And I am doing this every day

3.  Be aware of all things in life and thinking can Change your Life. Thinking changes everything or even the events that happen around. 

My Learning: I just found of what thought patterns I have about certain things that are not happenign in my life and I changed them. Event is not the outcome but Event plus response is the outcome and I can control the thoughts and choose the response

4. Jonathan the seagull: This is from a book where the seagull was fat and people thought it cannot fly and it started flying and was on top of the world. It is like the bumble bee. Aero dynamically speaking the bumble bee cannot fly but it does not know it cannot fly

My Learning: Be the seagull. Break barriers that you thought you cannot. So I am taking up new challenges in my life

5. There is not any hopeless things or situations that you cannot come out of if you think differently.

My Learning: Wow! thats all can I say

6. Sorrows are not sorrows in itself but its only so called sorrows which you can come out of. Do not succumb to Sorrows

7. People see me as a successful person but am I successful. If I achieve what I want then i am successful

My Learning: Never live for others. Just achieve what you want.

8. Your living is by your thoughts. Difficulties will come, but have the mental strength and dont give up at any cost

My Learning: During difficult times I will focus on the goals and move one

9. Why waste this precious life? Never compare yourself with others

My Learning: I never do that and dont want to do it in future too. I will have role models and do better than many.

10. At no point of time I thought I will not do my M.S. Thinking is the greatest attraction

My Learning: Dr. Aruna had some challenges to do her Masters in Medicine and this belief and focus made her achieve. Can’t I do that?

For all those who could not attend, I feel sorry for you and this is the best I could do.

Pills to handle Depression?

November 6, 2008 Life, NLP 3 comments

poppills.jpgDo you need pills to handle depression? I read an article in a newspaper recently which said the sales of Anti-Depressant pills have shot up? Surprising because people treat this financial turmoil in very different ways. They feel depressed because of huge financial loses and use these pills to feel better. Read article here.. http://tinyurl.com/58u2wm

Can these pills really make you feel better? I really don’t know, but the fact is that you don’t need pills to feel better. As a matter of fact you really don’t need reason to feel better. This moment right now can you feel better?

I always say to people during my training program is this

“The only reason why you must feel happy is that you are able to read this or hear something happening and feel in a certain way”. You are so gifted to have what you have and that’s a good enough reason to feel happy.

But people say, “Praveen I have lost money, and how do expect me to now feel depressed?”. Absolutely right! You must feel depressed but my question is that will taking pills be the solution. The result of eating anti-depressants or even smoking or drinking is “More depressed”. You will feel down, sad and depressed and because of that eat pills and then feel more bad because you are eating pills for not getting depressed which means that you are fighting depression.

Depression is just a State of Mind and you can control it. I know you will feel bad about the events of your loss. But it cannot be avoided. Respond in a useful way so that your life will be in better control of yourself. Instead of focusing on how life will be because of your loss, start focusing on how you want life to be. That will make you come out of depression will motivate you and make you perform better.

Please do not pop pills because they have other effects in your brain.

Teachers Day!

September 9, 2008 Life, Personal Views No comments

teachersWhy I write this post? Because for the first time I got a message on the 5th of September for Teachers Day, saying “Happy Teachers Day, NLP Teacher”. That made my day actually. I missed the message on the 5th of Sep and when I reached India, I got this message. (For all my readers across the globe, 5th of Sep is celebrated as teachers day to commerate a great teachers Dr.Radhakrishnan).

Did I make a difference in lives? Did people really take me as a Teacher. This thought was there and this message was a great one to make me believe that yes I can make a difference and I need to do more.Thats when I realized that I never have thought about my teachers who made a difference in my life. Whoever be it, they did contribute for my success. I am what I am today because of my teachers.

My teachers in my kindergarden (cannot forget that school.. amazing time..), my teachers in primary and secondary school (they really shaped me), my teachers in graduation and university (they showed me what life is all about) and my teachers even today in the various fields of self development, in particular Dr. Richard Bandler, my NLP Teacher.

I remember when I was in school, I used to participate in every speaking competition. And at one point in time, without even me asking them they used to just include my name. It was just the belief and trust what they had in me. In school there used a morning assembly when one student need to read the news for the day. There were many a times I remember, there would be no one to read and my teachers used to arrange someone urgently and that used to be me. I have got scolding from my principal many times for not preparing. But I think thats what gave me the courage what I have today and I can handle any audience, any number of people, whoever be it and intrestingly whatever topic it be.

Dear TEACHERS, if you are reading this.. my million “THANKS” to you. I really do not know how to compensate for all that you have done for me, but I will always have the sense of Gratitude for you made me “PRAVEEN”. If I have an identity today, you made a difference. Thanks dear teachers. Love you always.

Thanks to the person who made me write this post today. A Message really made a difference. 

Live Life to the Fullest

July 6, 2008 Learnings, Life 2 comments

240389468_eae91116d1.jpgAre we caught up in TIME now to do many things. Gone are those days when there used to be small talks with friends, lovely fights with siblings and so on right. There were times that we take things for granted. Imagine how things were when you were young, those days of playing on the streets, in the park and so on. With friends it was more fun and today it is becoming a big thing to call them and talk to them. You were enjoying those nice ice creams when you plunged into one cup of ice cream and dint bother about hygiene and shared the spoon with your friend.

Those long conversations on the phone made you wonder, why can’t this clock stop ticking and why the hell does it move so fast. Popcorns, long walks (I used to do this a lot in my university days and until recently), various discussions on who is the best cricketer and why Politics is so bad and on and on. Those midnight wishes.

Life has become so very different today right. We never step out to see what is real and what is not. And we feel that life is meaningless. Even today we don’t find time and curse and clock for moving fast and blame the time for not doing many things. Not even a call to a friend.

We did not realize how much love and care we were given by our parents and today many are busy showing the same to children yet not sure what they one is doing.

Life is the same, we are just different. We need to gain back the same joy42275122_ec77eb685f.jpg and fun in our life. We need to detach ourselves from many a things and while still not forgetting our responsibilities. Not that responsibilities weren’t there before. When you were studying probably your highest responsibility was that to score well, to get a good job and so on. Those days these were big responsibilities for us. Today as I was travelling to work from home in Dubai, I was really wondering are these materialistic things giving any please and keep up with the fast paced world.

We just make world the way we want to. Please the very idea of this post is for people to stop giving those excuses, I don’t have time, I cannot do it and so. Please henceforth say “I don’t want to do it”. This would mean a lot. Things change yes, but what happens because of this change, oneself. We change and say the environment and situation force us to change. I don’t want to believe in that because the only person who can and who must control your life has to be you. Do you want someone else to control your life?

Priorities of life change and hence we accept the change and these so called priorities become the No. 1 excuse. Human kind is really capable of giving up and letting lots of excuses come in way. If you can stop this then your life will be better. Because when you say “I don’t have time”, “I cannot do it”, it means your pulling yourself down. You must respect your capabilities and henceforth when you say this please say “I don’t want to do this”. This at least will not pull you down and you still act with confidence. Excuses make you a victim and sometimes also makes you carry a guilt. When you I don’t want to, you act so much of conviction that it gives you courage and confidence that you are making the best choice!

Do your best to also enjoy those small things of life. Remember friends, call them wish them. I did a small piece of it today. Mailed some good old friends and asked them how they were. Remembered what people at home like, so that I can probably buy some of those for them. Makes me feel good for the moment atleast before I get into work.

No Tobacco Day?

June 1, 2008 Health, Life, NLP One comment

The No Tobacco Day is observed every 31st of May during which time the people around the world, government, organizations and others, make people realize that the ill effects of smoking and make them refrain from smoking.

I was reading today’s paper in Dubai, which bans smoking or selling of tobacco for under 20′s. Interestingly the Government plans what we must do. More out of concern I guess!

At 20 you are not even supposed to use tobacco anywhere (not just 20 but at any age) and there is someone who is refraining from doing so. Don’t we know that logically we are not supposed to do this?

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And still people do what they want to do. Its because they “WANT” it.  Why? Because people believe the Smoking can give them some relief from stress, of make them look cool and so on. But unfortunate that they do not realize the amount of chemical reactions that take place inside which acts weird.

Is it not that people do not know they must not smoke, they still do it because they have an identity which says “you are a smoker”.  Unless the identity is changed it becomes very difficult for anyone to change the behavior or a habit. Patterns are also formed because of identity of self.

Creating an identity is nothing much except that you start living what you want, rather force yourself and be what you want and slowly your subconscious begins to believe you are so and will support and guide you.

So lets plan our own Life before someone else does it for us.

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